ASD-related Meltdowns and the Subsequent Retribution from the NT Spouse

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Points to consider:

• a particular behavior may be meltdown-related on one occasion, but a simple adult tantrum on another occasion
• depression is the only outward visible sign of a meltdown
• facial expressions very often will not convey frustration
• a meltdown is a condition where the person temporarily loses control due to emotional responses to environmental factors
• meltdowns aren't wholly caused by the current scenario, but are usually the result of an overwhelming number of other issues
• meltdowns can often look like adult tantrums
• punishing a spouse for a meltdown is like punishing someone for swearing when they hit their thumb with a hammer
• some people on the spectrum describe the meltdown as a red or grey band across the eyes
• some things that annoy ASD people would not be considered annoying to NTs
• vocal tones will often remain flat - even when they are highly agitated